|photo by heather brincko|
We did a special reading during our ceremony and used our tree in place of the traditional "unity candle." The moms came up, one at a time, and put a small scoop of dirt into the pot around the tree. They then passed us the watering cans and we watered our tree together. We loved the symbolism of it and the casual style fit our personalities so much better than the more traditional options.
We decided on a "Serviceberry" tree - it is a native tree to Pennsylvania and the guy at the nursery raved about how pretty they were. It gets delicate white flowers in the Spring, sweet edible berries in the Summer and the leaves change colors in the Fall. Each season the tree changes - and we loved that! For our ceremony, I simply wrapped the standard black pot with burlap and a purple ribbon.
Here was the reading that was read during our ceremony:
Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether you roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.
After returning from our honeymoon, we planted our "love tree" (that's what we've been jokingly calling it) at our new house.
The tree has grown a bunch and we've spent the first year of our marriage happy as can be. We're looking forward to many years to come and watching our "love tree" grow. It'll be fun to have a picture with it every year on our anniversary. I've already told Adam that if we ever move, that tree is coming with us - it's part of the family now.